How can I talk about sex, if I'm not writing any?

It's the finale to sex week at DWT, and it's strange that I'm going to finish it, because right now, my characters should not be having sex. I've ventured into the world of YA, where sex is handled very carefully, and in a lot of books, is at most hinted at, or completely absent.

I'm going for the hinted at variety, where there is attraction, and interest, but, in this book, little physical interaction.

In many ways this is a relief for me. For all the reasons discussed this week, sex scenes are really difficult to write, and I've never been able to shut my writer door, and written them as unencumbered as I would have liked.
It's a little sad that I kill people hundreds of different ways in print without even blinking an eye, but writing about an intimate connection between two people who care for each other has me blushing at my computer.

But having written in romance, the one thing I never forget is the joy of that attraction, the connection between two attracted people, no matter what the age. And the complications that can add to a protagonist's life if the attraction is unwanted or stricken with tension.

I know from reading some amazing books, and what Eileen so deftly pointed out, that the actual sex scene is not necessary to create a really sexy book. It's all in the details.

And it means I have to work harder to create the mood, and details of that attraction, because I have to do it subtly, and without the obvious body parts involved.

So, no sex for me. At least in this book. But I'm still hoping there will be some romance, some sizzle and sensual tension.